Being a man, that is pretty simple. God takes care of that one for you. You don’t need to decide on that or a special manual to become a man, it’s just going to happen. One day though you may have the privilege of being a father. This is where things can get a little tricky, this doesn’t come as naturally as just being a man.
Yesterday was Father’s Day-a celebration of dads. I write this blog with young people in mind. My Awesome is serving youth and helping them Discover their awesome-and there isn’t anything more awesome than being a dad.
I have two awesome young girls and it got me thinking about the tremendous job I have as their dad.
So men-what is it that makes a great dad? I have a few ideas and then you can share yours. I’d love to hear from women and mothers on this also, so don’t feel left out.
1. Love my wife
One of the most important jobs is to teach my children about love and relationships. I need to model that, not just tell them. I obviously want my daughters to one day-a long, long time from now-find men that are loving and respectful to them. They get that from what I model-not what I say.
2. Be there
I believe strongly in being there to be supportive of what my kids are involved in. My daughters are in dance now. Is it my favorite, would it be my choice, maybe not.
But I’m going to be there to support them, actually I’m going to do more than just be there I’m going to be involved. I will learn about dance and learn how do to things that are helpful-I can put hair in a bun-this gets me dad of the year at the dance studio. As I am more and more involved I enjoy seeing them dance more and more.
3. Discipline them
I know more than my children. They want a lot of things that aren’t necessarily good for them. As a dad-my job is to let them know when they are wrong and help them make corrections to mistakes they have made and are going to make.
Discipline isn’t angry or mean. Discipline teaches a lesson. I once heard someone say about parenting, “Correct mistakes-punish disobedience.” I love this advice. Mistakes will be made and punishing them makes kids afraid to fail. Being afraid to fail-leads to fear of trying. Fear of trying-leads to failure
4. Love them
My daughters might make choices in their lives that I wouldn’t. I don’t believe that it is my job to tell my kids what they are going to do with their lives, my job is to love them-unconditionally, with out judgement.
I want to allow my kids to live outside of my small box of what is a good life. I want them to pursue their own dreams-their own awesome and I want to love them for it.
What are your ideas of what makes a great dad? Share them in the comments below.
Happy Father’s Day Dads.