Gray area is all of the time in our life where there isn’t a cut and dry, black or white answer. Sometimes we are taught right and wrong in such concrete terms. This is wrong and it can’t ever be right. Of course there are some instances where that is true. There are also a lot of times where what we thought was wrong, maybe doesn’t deserve the treatment we once thought.
Last week I tweeted, “Not everything is black and white. Be willing to bend, gray is a color too.” This was in response to bending my rules a little for a student that hopes to graduate high school in a few weeks. I know there are teachers, standing and yelling at me right now. No breaks-kids have to learn to meet expectations and if you give them a break they will always never learn.
Yeah, yeah I know all that. I actually led my classes like that for most of my career, only now I see it differently. I see my students as individuals, and the lesson that works for one may not work for all of them. If you are in education, leadership, the world changing business, you can’t manage every person exactly the same.
My goal with my students is simply, “Help them discover their best.” So I have to look at each situation and decide what helps this student most.
In this particular case, I decided that a little grace and mercy would go a long way to helping shape this student’s life. Sure I could have shut her down, taught her that things don’t always work out in your favor just because you want them to. I could have crushed her dream of graduating and told her, “I’m sorry you missed the deadline for this assignment, try harder next time.”
Instead I chose to teach a lesson of mercy…
“You know you messed up.”
“You know you don’t deserve this.”
“Okay great, how about I let you make up these assignments and we will see where you stand after you do that.”
“Wow, thank you, don’t worry I’m going to get it all done and it is going to be great.”
This student is in the process of getting her work to me and she has a chance to walk and receive her diploma, something neither of her parents have done before her. So yeah there is gray, and I hope she learned that you can give second chances to people who don’t deserve them. I hope she one day forgets about the wrong and says it’s okay, you can try to fix it.
The truth is, I don’t know what she’s going to do with this opportunity, maybe she’s laughing behind my back, telling all her friends she scammed me. I’m okay with that because…
she probably will never forget getting a second chance. I don’t know what opportunity will come her way, but I do know there are far greater opportunities with a diploma than without one.
If you are a high school student or you know one. Keep reading.
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